Will You Change Your Relationship with Fear?

Conversations about war, politics, religion, and sex are avoided at work and in a myriad of households remain off the dinner table. We’re taught it’s not polite. No one wants to rock the boat lest we witness an explosion before dessert. With a hesitant smile and in good company, most of us move away from what we fear.

While fear serves to inform us so we navigate criticism, arguments, disappointment, loss, and much more, we can also avoid using it productively and choose to be ‘stuck’.

To grow means that we face fear and allow it to inform and move out of stuck

Most of us recognize the world of ‘stuck’. Being stuck allows us to camouflage our fears and become masterful with socially acceptable strategies and distractions. We know when we’re considering un-stuck when our inner voice whispers or screams for change or – change is thrust on us.

When clients share with me that they’re feeling stuck, we often find an unconscious avoidance of the truth they must face in order to grow. To face some truths then offers a choice that can feel risky. To change our relationship with fear requires us to accept the risk it brings if we’re to gain something of greater value.

What if we made fear a friend – and were willing to put all we know and have on the line?  

Allow me to share the story of Mohamad Hussein (Mo) – who chose to embrace fear as an intimate friend. His relationship with it was not to be avoided nor silenced, but invited to go actively in-hand with his beliefs and work. I hope his story of risking it all with all he has will inspire you to grow.

Mohamad Hussein (Mo) - Photo Credit: Tessa Kraan
Photo Credit: Tessa Kraan

In his latest music video “Azadi Azizam” (freedom darling) Mo charges forward with artist L I N in a sonorous cry on the public stage. His sound inspires empathy and solidarity through a depiction of the past and present dilapidation of the refugee camps on Lesvos (Greece). Through his music videos, he exposes the brutality of the Greek police and broadcasts the hardships created and maintained by EU Agencies.

Mo isn’t just going to work – he’s risking his own asylum in Greece and the inevitable consequence of rejection: forced deportation back to Afghanistan. Even with his asylum in jeopardy, he refuses to dance with fear. The greater truth of emotional brutality to the refugee compels him to sing for the greater good of those that cannot speak. In his mother tongue, Mo creates a poetic lullaby out of adversity and pain – that may wake others out of the shadows. By using his art with its criticism in a public forum, Mo unshackled the mouths of those limited by legal immobility and exposed raw, unfiltered portraits of modern-day prisons masquerading as refugee camps.

Mo Hussein is as Bold as he is Brave

He risked all for the opportunity to express the hardships of thousands and the brokenness of the present asylum processing system. He chose to let fear move him to action – and risked all for the greater possibility of helping those that couldn’t help themselves. And – he keeps going.  

When befriended, fear can’t paralyze – it motivates.

To help change your relationship with those things which fear may be holding you back, you’re invited to consider the following questions:

  • Regardless of the world in which you find yourself – if fear has you stuck -what is the cost of staying there?
  •  What are you willing to risk to get on with the biggest things in your life? 
  • What actions will you take on behalf of what you believe? 
  • What is the cost of complacency?  

“You’re full of potential, have the choice and a role in shaping the future. When you’re ready to move forward – let’s talk.” Schedule a call with Kim.

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Kim Moore

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